When first designing a home garden, it’s important to carve out permanent areas for vegetables that will feed us year around. What is seldom considered is the expanding growth of nearby trees that, with each passing year, grow to encircle the area and encroach on the garden space, blocking the sun and hindering the growth of our nourishing plants.

        Cutting down a perfectly good tree can seem almost immoral and many of us would move the garden before eliminating the tree. Year after year, we chase the sun to make new beds until one day, there is no place left to plant that isn’t in shade. Something must be done to let in the light.

        The most beautiful trees often provide the most shade, and their beauty brings many compliments, and even envy from those who are part of our lives. To protect the greater growth, it becomes necessary to remove the tree, yet we know people will think we are crazy to remove a gorgeous, healthy tree. The inner message moves from “I need to remove what’s blocking the light” to “I should not cut down the tree because other people think it’s beautiful, despite the problems it’s creating for my garden.” Our action is now being blocked by a “should.”

        From the outside, a life built on “should” may look nice, but for the person living that life, these “shoulds” may be blocking the sun of their being. We feel as though we have to keep our “shoulds,” even though the shade it casts has stunted our inspiration, creativity and growth. 

        What blocks out the sun of our spirit? Some “shoulds” were handed down when we were too young to know better. For example, doubting our abilities and talents because parents dictated a path we should take. Some “shoulds” come from the conventions of society. Whatever holds us hostage energetically and emotionally limits our possibilities and constrict our inner light.

        Pruning unnecessary “shoulds” from one’s life offers new beginnings as restrictions fall away. As these “shoulds” are removed, life may look strange. Others may judge or criticize. But removing these barriers is a step toward personal freedom and happiness, allowing for a more authentic life. The sun that shines through makes all difference.

Shulamit Lazarus, EFT, MRA, is a personal transformation specialist and EFT “tapping” master, who knows the value of EFT in helping clients prune the “shoulds” from their lives. She works with clients by phone, at her Bloomfield office or through Skype. For information, call 973-259-1988 or visit ShulamitLazarus.com.